Getting exhausted kids back is not going to end well. And at 6 pm, Hell enters my kitchen. Despite being good lil’ Mama’s helper and baking happily with me, just before sitting down for dinner, spawn of Satan came out. She hates me and I’m not her real mum, along with worst dinner ever and any other venom she could spurt. Spent a bit of time outside (her, not me … but it was a close call – moving far from her attitude and tears was very tempting). She was too far past her emotional capabilities to handle.
She’s better today after a good sleep.
Me, on the other hand … I dunno but there’s that ‘flat’ feeling again. Possibly lack of sleep, tired of insipid weather, apprehension of today’s pre-mediation meeting (both AH and I get a 1-on-1 session with our mediator before we sit down together).
I like our mediator. She strikes me as honest and fair. A good listener and definitely keen for the best possible outcome for the kids. Also seems genuinely concerned for me. Probably was a bit of a waste having our meeting before AH had his as we have no idea what he’s proposing. I know he wants free weekends so he can party, but am completely in the dark as to how he would achieve this. I would oppose week-on/week-off. He hasn’t proven that he can look after the kids 3 days, why would a week work?! He’s only seeing her on Thurs so I’ll have to wait until then to hear.
Took M9 to a hip-hop class this afternoon. Unfortunately it only had girls dancing and a female teacher, so he’s not keen. Thurs evening they do a boys-only class that he’d like to try. Oh yay! Another after-school activity on Daddy’s day! Email him about it and he agrees to take him along (Grolsch lives nearby so they could spend some much-needed time together).
Not pleased that, instead of cleaning his room as he’d been asked, M9 decides to simulate hanging himself on his door handle. GOD KNOWS where this has come from but I’m freaking. Apparently one of his mates last year talked about it and has lost a number of cousins to hanging (also, it was the stupid choice my niece made … but the kids don’t know that). He’s laughing and refusing to tidy his room when AH calls. Cue tears! AH speaks with M11 asking him if he could go help tidy the room (he’d done the dishes which is why he was excused … but of course AH hadn’t been told this). AH asks to speak with me and he’s rightly concerned about M9’s actions. M9 said he wanted AH to come for a cuddle so he asks if he can. Now I’m sure some will think be cruel but I said ‘no’.
M9 is playing AH again and again (ie running to his when something doesn’t go his way! Calling him in the middle of a fight with his brother to get sympathy! AH then asks if M9 can spend the night when he’s meant to be with me … it’s all setting precedents that don’t need to be set). Stop indulging him and letting him think that his manipulation is actually working! Be a strong, guiding father … FFS!
Boys also mention cocaine so ask where this has come from: ex-colleague’s son apparently along with older brother of kid in M9’s football team (his mother and ex-colleague’s missus spend a lot of time together). Don’t like that kids are having these discussions in their faces so much earlier. Can’t remember when I first heard about cocaine but it definitely wasn’t while still at primary school.
- bit of gardening and mowed front lawn;
- full baking tins;
- boys being excited to take Thermos’ of soup to school for lunch. Old skool 🙂