Best start with last week’s output as I need to make space on my phone 🙂
With it being AH’s ‘kid-free, party-boy’ weekend just gone, I find myself without any kids on a Monday for a change. It’s actually a nice start to the week: not having to think about what to cook for dinner or whether I have enough bits in the fridge to fill 3 lunchboxes. It’s been a pretty full-on weekend so thought I might get some chores done but have just found it more beneficial to relax and enjoy the peace!
AH’s time with the kids started at 3 pm on Thursday. They’d all been happy at the end of my ‘shift’ – including M10 who’d accepted his punishment handed down by AH for deceiving him and installing Instagram behind his back (thought I’d posted about it but must’ve dreamt that. [Long story short, despite being told that, at 10 years old, he was too young to install it, he did so while over at AH’s ex-colleague’s (the one with the 2-faced beyotch missus and Spawn of Satan son). AH got him to delete it but the following Tuesday, M10 tells me he’s installed it (I hadn’t been told about the first instance, at this stage). I let AH know and shit hits the proverbial]).
I got a call at work from M10 in tears at 3.17 pm. ‘Daddy’s really angry’ with him. He didn’t want to stay there and wanted to come to me; would I come and pick up him? Turns out AH was still fuming about the Instagram issue (his anger is enhanced as it happened on his time AND I found out about it). Spend a good 10 minutes telling him that Daddy loves him and they’d both be upset if they missed out on their time together. Also that I wouldn’t be happy if Daddy came and got him when he was upset so I wouldn’t do it to him unless he was being hurt. Reiterate what I’ve already said: that he needs to take responsibility for his actions and ask how he can make it better with AH. He’s so upset but at least is listening. Then I hear AH in the background telling him to get off the phone coz they’re leaving – to bring him to me.
Within 10 minutes, M10 is dumped at my work. AH doesn’t even wait to ensure that I’m there. He’s gone. Good thing my boss is flexible! Spend some time speaking with him then head back to mine to pick up some stuff. He’s fine so I take him back to AH’s. At one stage, M10 says he’s worked out why AH was so angry: apparently he had to get up at 5 am to do work so he was tired. Let M10 know that, under NO circumstances, should he try and put the blame on AH. That would not end well.
As we drive up his road, M10 starts crying again, scared of how AH is going to be. Again, tell him just to let him know he did wrong, he loves him and that he won’t do it again … and to mean it!
AH meets him outside the front door and starts bollocking him: “If you ever say you don’t want to be here again, I will just take you away” [WTH!!]. I get out of the car and make it obvious that I’m watching what’s going on so thankfully, when M10 cries and tells AH he loves him, AH calms down, tells him he loves him too, they hug and go inside, closing the door behind him. I didn’t even get to see M11 and Ms7 who were inside, which was unusual – they usually run out.
The following day, when I took M10 to his athletics day, he was already starting with the attitude and just wasn’t himself. Not really surprised since his father told him he’d take him away if he spoke out in anger and hurt again. I know it’s not nice to hear those words from your kids but AH’s response was immature, unreasonable, insensitive parenting.
I back AH up on banning M10 from devices. I don’t agree with the ban as M10 had owned up to what he did and seemed to understand he, and he alone, made that choice. At that stage, I hadn’t been told that it was the second time he’d installed it. That little titbit of information would’ve had me supporting the ban. Come Friday evening, we’re at a friends and all the boys but M10 are on devices so I text AH to ask how long the ban is in place for – knowing full well that he would let M10 go back on within minutes of getting them back on Sunday. My god! He really is an ignorant prick!