But unfortunately not 2 years free of him. More’s the pity.
We can now officially get divorced. He emails today to ask, “How do you wish to proceed?”. Smooth, AH. Real smoooooth. This, after he tried to get the marriage certificate underhandedly so that he could make a sole application which would result in me getting served at any time! My last lawyer’s letter said I would provide the certificate if a joint application was done. His lawyer’s reply didn’t even mention it.
My parents got here on Monday; not in time for school pick-up unfortunately but had 3 very surprised little ones when they heard Papa’s deep voice. Big cuddles all around.
It was great they could see Ms7 at her jazz class on Tues. I ducked out to the supermarket and when I got back at 4:05, felt sick to see AH there. It was Ms7’s 1-on-1 so figured he got there early to watch then would take her directly – so it was odd when we went to the car to get her uniform and school bag, he left without her. And without waiting to say ‘hi’ to my parents who he definitely would’ve seen through the studio windows. Papa didn’t want to go and say ‘hi’ to him either which is unusual for him. They have been very supportive of AH – they appreciate he is the father to the kids and will always be in all of our lives, and they’ve let him know this. But they’ve seen what he’s done and can’t believe his actions.
I took Ms7 to the pharmacy before school as she’s got a couple of skin ‘rashes’ and I wanted to know if they were school sores. Nup – he was sure they weren’t. No angry, red bits so he thought the infection had gone and they were just healing.
During jazz, AH texts me [yes, from one side of the studio to the other] asking if I’ve had the sore under her arm checked. An hour after he’s collected her for 1-on-1, another text:
[Ms7] has told me you’ve taken her to the chemist to get it checked. Did you show them the one by her virgina [sic!]?
WTH? Ms7 would’ve told him that it was checked as well. What was the point of the text?
He takes her to the emergency doctors before I’ve even responded. Ends up, chemist got it wrong and they ARE school sores. She’s back on meds for the week.
I question where he got her mattress from as there were no spots when she left on Thurs – it was only on Sun, once she got back from his, that she said it was sore and showed me (I’m able to get an immediate response when he calls me from the doctors to find out the name of the meds he got given a week or so ago [new mattress, apparently]).
I’m keen to try and find potential sources for the sores as these kids have NEVER had them until the last few weeks. As I’ve mentioned before, I am concerned at the amount of illness they seem to be attracting the past few months. They used to have great immune systems.
Clearly the “severe stress” they’re under is what’s messing with their systems.
That’s funny, as most people tell me how great the kids are and how well they seem to be getting through this horrible process.
Hardly signs of “severe stress”.
His comment “you can ask all the questions …” is vile. I’m the one who’s solely taken them to the doctors for the first 10/8/5 years of their lives. It implies I’m neglecting them which is exactly what he would’ve been aiming for. There was NO reason to take her this evening – it could’ve been done this morning. He will need to pay the charge … but he won’t. He’ll take it out of the joint account with no regard to my still outstanding debt.
And more on this tomorrow as my eyes are too heavy…